H. Stanhope to Caroline, Banff, August 22, [1892]

Add MSS 412 Box 1 File 18

Aug. 22nd [1892]

My dear Mrs. O’Reilly

I hope you do not fell bothered with my letters. I got out here last night, I felt obliged to try a change of some kind. I want to tell you that I am a most selfish & thoughtless fellow – for thinking only of myself & my own happiness with regard to your daughter. She told me she loved me & yet felt so frightened. I dont wonder at it. I could’nt tell her anything about her future life, and how could she be expected to look with anything but a shudder at a future so vague, & give up the dear old house she has lived in so long, and her horse & no doubt a thousand other things, and leave her old father & mother in complete uncertainty as to when & how she would see them again. why I feel such a brute for having expected such a thing. I think it shows what a sensible and feeling girl she is. It is for me to give up everything so long as I can win her, and before she gives her final answer to me (& she was sweet enough to say she did’nt think I should have long to wait) I will see that the arrangements for out future are such as to satisfy her that her existence, independently of me, will be a happy one. It was my duty to have thought more of this before, do forgive me, sorrow at leaving her forced the words from me. I shall of course try to arrange this at once & I dont care how. I am not keen on remaining in the Navy, not do I mind whether my house is in England or in British Columbia for the latter country I have formed a great affection. I hope you will let me hear from you now & then at the Naval & Military Club, Piccadilly, it will see such an age before I get there. In wishing you good-bye from British Columbia, I must tell you, dear Mrs. O’Reilly, what a privilege & an honour it must have been allowed to be in such close & affectionate relationship with Kitty (please allow me to use the name I love to call her by). It showed me more than ever that I had not mistaken in my opinion of her, and if you will not think badly of me, I don’t mind confessing that since I have known her, her influence over me has made me feel a better & a purer man. It was so nice of you to ask a blessing on me the night I left Victoria, I think you will make a most delightful mother-in-law. I have changed my journey to go to by Toronto & Niagara; the train is maddening, one cannot get away from one’s thoughts. I was so glad of the company of Mr. Douglas Dick between North Bend & Glacier. Would it amuse you to hear that at Vancouver, I joined in partnership with Mr. Evan Thomas in starting a place where there good people of Vancouver can buy their own flowers instead of having to send to Victoria for them. When you go there for a visit, will you & yours kindly patronize my shop? a bit flower or leaf from your garden enclosed whenever you write would be so welcome. You know what I mean.
I have written again to Mr. O’Reilly

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